Emotional strength is a topic that is covered in the media on a regular basis. It is made out that being emotionally strong or being strong at all appears to mean just getting on with things and being quite heartless.
To me, being emotionally strong means looking forward. Turning negative emotions into emotions that are a bit more positive no matter how hard it may seem.
Often when we don’t feel happy we let ourselves get into a rut. We forget about the good things and focus on the bad and the raw emotions that we experience in the moment. We can be angry and upset. We express things in different ways to try to get our points across.
However, I believe being emotionally strong is finding a way to get out of the rut. I think it is more about trying to understand the emotions we are experiencing on face value and realising things do get better. I think by realising you aren’t the only one in a million people trying to deal with the same experiences and same emotions can see you through a bad time.
I often think that things happen for a reason. Sometimes it seems as though the bad stuff never ends but actually perhaps it happens for a reason. Maybe if situation A were to happen it would have followed with a drastic outcome.
We can’t predict the future but surely we can change our mindset.
In therapies that are used to treat mental health disorders such as depression for instance, something called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is used. It is a psychotherapical treatment and takes form of a range of different models. Aaron Beck composed the Cognitive Triad to summarise the thoughts of those who are perhaps unhappy or depressed, in a trio of three components.
Here we can see a link between three components:
NEGATIVE VIEWS ABOUT ONESELF
NEGATIVE VIEWS ABOUT THE WORLD
NEGATIVE VIEWS ABOUT THE FUTURE
Perhaps by then having a positive view on these three factors we can change our mindset to become emotionally strong.
If we think positively of ourself, we can then think positively of the world and so have a positive outlook on the future. Cognitive therapists agree that we can change the way we think. Although this type of therapy is used often amongst those who do show signs on depression, maybe people generally could try to apply this to their own thoughts in order to get through experiences that leave us with negative emotions..
POSITIVE THOUGHTS = POSITIVE RESULTS
Maybe next time you feel unhappy you could think through this…